Hello beautifuls! Yes, you sista girl. You are beautiful, inside and out. Don’t let anyone tell you different. You see, there was a time when I struggled with my self-image. I wore huge glasses, had thick eyebrows and I was very skinny. Back then, the song by TLC called “Unpretty” was a major hit on my playlist. I was teased a lot and just didn’t fit in with my friends. Lo and behold, I figured out that I was never meant to fit in but I was called and created to stand out. What was my greatest struggle has become my greatest asset. I am here to help you learn how to rock your inner beauty.
First, you must believe in yourself. Confidence is sexy. You can be either your biggest cheerleader or your worst critic. What I have come to find out is that belief in self directly affects everything that you do in life. If you have dreams that you desire to pursue whether it is to be singer, doctor, artist or entrepreneur, you have to believe that you can achieve your dreams and live in your passion and purpose. You were created for greatness; let your mind believe it so you can walk in it.
Next, you can celebrate your uniqueness. No one else on this earth is quite like you. That’s great news because there are no carbon copies of you anywhere. Science tells us we are unique because of our DNA. The Bible tells us that we are beautifully and wonderfully made by God. Everything about you is unique. From your individuality and your personality to your mannerisms and mindset. It’s time to celebrate it. Girl, let your uniqueness shine like the radiant sun on a beautiful day.
Another way to rock your inner beauty is to kick the “Patricia-the-perfectionist” habit. My goodness, I know about this one all too well. I wanted to be perfect so bad that I made sure that I stayed two steps ahead of everything and everyone in my life just so I wouldn’t make a mistake. But the truth is life is messy sometimes. We are going to make mistakes. My mom used to tell all the time when I was a kid “Don’t mess up.” I allowed this mindset to shape my thoughts and it became my reality. Of course, I messed up and made plenty of mistakes. But when I did, I hated to admit my shortcomings and I loathed looking at myself in the mirror after my mistakes happened. I wallowed in my weaknesses and totally became conceited, thinking that if I hide them behind my strengths and everything I am good at, then no one would notice. But they did of course. The raw truth is that we are humans and we are bound to make mistakes. We can embrace those areas of our lives that are flawed. However, these mistakes and mishaps do not define us. We can only strive to walk in perfection and excellence.
Furthermore, learn how to stay out of the comparison lane. Oftentimes, we see other ladies around us that we admire whether it’s our coworkers, friends, boss ladies, or celebrities. In a world of so many people to compare ourselves to, we get caught up in others’ attributes, accomplishments and accolades. Sometimes, we find ourselves cultivating our identity by another woman’s size, shape and strengths. In fact, we are doing a dishonor to God when we compare ourselves to other people. We are indirectly saying to Him, “I don’t value what you created me to be.” And of course, that can’t be true because I know you do value you! Comparison steals our creativity and uniqueness and causes us to look at ourselves in a negative light.
Lastly, be unapologetically intentional about rocking your inner beauty. You gotta be bold about it. Don’t apologize for your gifts, talents and abilities. You are one of a kind, a raw diamond. If you need to stand in the mirror and do some affirmations to help you stand in the authenticity of your inner beauty, do it. If you need to see what the word of God says about you to see who you are, do this. You will find when you begin to fully embrace your beauty, inside and out, you will be feel better about yourself and see yourself and your life in a new light! Cheers to celebrating you!
About the writer
Detroit native, J. Celeste Carr is a woman who is passionate about empowering women to stand in the beauty of their uniqueness, inside and out. She is a lover of natural hair and dares to be different in every area of her life. She loves to connect with women entrepreneurs all across the country. She enjoys writing, reading, event planning and cooking. She resides in Michigan with her husband and daughter.